Today, I as I walked into the grocery store, some solicitor was outside trying to get signatures or money. I don’t even know what his cause was, because the first thing he said to me as I got closer was, “You dropped your smile.”
There are very few things in the world…
Congratulations, all you did, was ruin the day of a guy, who was just doing his job and/or trying to cheer you up.
Way to go girl!
Okay, putting aside the part where at no point do total strangers have the right to tell people to change their facial expressions on demand - as apparently that concept was too complicated too grasp - let me break this down for you.
If the guy was doing his job he would’ve solicited for whatever it was he was out there for. He would’ve tried to pitch for his charity or petition or whatever it was. As it was, he did such a poor job of that that Ashley didn’t even know what the guy was advocating for. So clearly doing his job wasn’t the first item on his agenda.
As for cheering her up, that is not accomplished by telling people to smile.
Now people never have to smile. They can not smile for any number of reasons and all of them are valid. However, let’s assume for the sake of argument that the reason why Ashley wasn’t smiling that day was because she was, in fact, in need of cheering up. How does telling her she dropped her smile accomplish that?
If her grandmother had died would “you dropped your smile” help ease her loss? If she’d just been fired would “you dropped your smile” let her know where her next rent payment was coming from? If she had depression would “you dropped your smile” instantly fix the chemical imbalance in her brain? If Ashley was unhappy because she was in need of the very thing this guy was trying to draw attention to, does “you dropped your smile” let her know that there is help available to her thanks to his organization?
Telling someone to smile is literally addressing the most superficial aspect of happiness with no care for whether or not the expression is genuine. If this guy really wanted to cheer Ashley up he could’ve asked what was wrong. He could’ve said he was sorry she was having a bad day. He could’ve somehow actually addressed the emotions and the cause of them instead of the expression on her face.
This guy did none of those things. He addressed her facial expression, and then the fact that she ignored him the first time. Neither of those actions speak in any way to his job or an effort to cheer her up.
But hey - if Ashley really DID ruin his day by telling him what he did wrong, apparently all she had to do to fix it was tell the guy he dropped his smile.
Today, as I walked into the grocery store, some solicitor was outside trying to get signatures or money. I don’t even know what his cause was, because the first thing he said to me as I got closer was, “You dropped your smile.”
There are very few things in the world that make my blood boil like being told by a strange man to smile. But I was very restrained and ignored him. I went about buying my groceries and forgot about it. Then, as I was leaving the store, he saw me and said, “You going to talk to me this time?”
I stopped. I turned. I said this, with a smile:
"I’m going to give you a tip. All women, everywhere, all of them, hate being told to smile. It implies that we owe you something, or it’s our job to be pleasant or ornamental. We don’t owe you anything, and it’s not our f*cking job to be pleasant or ornamental. If you want to help your cause, stop telling women to smile, because it makes them want to punch you in the face. Which I won’t do."
And then I walked away.
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Sometimes when my upstairs neighbors are throwing tantrums I go through tags like “i hate my neighbors” and I feel better. Either it makes me laugh or reminds me that my neighbors at least are sane, law abiding people. They just have really rude, inconsiderate kids that apparently never learned the difference between “inside voice” and “outside voice.”
I wonder if you can apparate while drunk. Or while sleeping, by accident?
Yikes, that would probably be disastrous.
If you consider the three D’s, destination, determination, and deliberation, I think it’s unlikely that you could apparate under any state of altered consciousness.